Suzie Scuba

Sarah says:
Perhaps some of you know that I’m not a very good swimmer. So the story goes, my parents hired me a swimming teacher when I was about 5 but I was such a brat that she quit. Funny enough, I spent all of my summers growing up at the beach playing in the ocean but could always either reach the bottom or wore my trusty innertube with cute pictures of seashells and fishies. If I could have an adult version of that innertube, I would. I decided enough was enough and took a swimming class when I was 19 and actually did learn to swim properly but something happened and I’ve blocked out everything I learned and now I get all choked up when I try to “do the breathing thing”. I also really, really don’t like deep water, dark water, I don’t like to think about, imagine or worse yet see the underside of boats in the water and I can’t think of anything more terrifying that seeing with my own eyes a shipwreck lying on the sea floor. I have a very hard time snorkeling and always panic a little for the first 5 minutes and don’t generally ever let go of the piece of the snorkel that is in my mouth allowing me to breath.
One would assume then that the last thing in the world I should try or would try would be scuba diving. I would completely, 100% agree with you on that. When David did his scuba certification course in Thailand last month I happily did not. But, see, two things have happened since then: 1) vacationing at the beach has become very solitary for me since my buddy now goes diving at every opportunity and 2) I realized that I’m defiantly scared of something that I’ve never actually experienced.

More…So…..I tried it. We went all the way out to the edge of the earth, OK just to the edge of Borneo but it took a really long time to get there, so that David could dive at this amazing, super-duper dive site called Sipidan. Supposed to be one of the best sites in the world. There’s an under-water cliff and the ocean depth instantly goes from 5m (15 feet) to 600m and you can see hundreds of sea turtles and sharks and all kinds of magical, electric coral. They charge *nearly* as much for you to snorkel here as to dive so instead of doing that, and before my brain could kick in, I signed up for a “Discover Scuba” day course. I thought it would be like the Discover Flying thing David gave me for Christmas last year where I didn’t actually have to learn anything - I just held on and flew the plane for an hour. Oh no……..little did I know the terrifying things I would do before the day was out.
My instructor was a fantastically patient guy named Chey from South Africa. I owe everything to him. My stomach rose to my throat and I felt like I was going to hurl as he explained that I would have to pass 4 skills tests, underwater - sitting on the bottom, before we would be able to go for a swim. I would have to: 1. remove the thing that lets me breath from my mouth and put it back in again, underwater. 2. Remove the thing that lets me breath from my mouth, toss it behind me, find it again, and put it back in my mouth, all while underwater. 3. Pretend that my tank has run out of air, remove the thing that lets me breath from my mouth, find his back-up thing that lets you breath and put it into my mouth, while underwater and 4. clear water from my mask by tilting my head up, pulling the mask away from my face and blowing out my nose - you got it, while underwater.  Getting INTO the water was scary enough for me. I had to roll backward off the side of the boat. The panic was already setting in. Then, while holding on to a buoy line, I had to get comfortable putting my face in the water and breathing through the regulator…………………………….45 minutes later, we were still holding on to the buoy line. After many, many babysteps, several panic attacks and several anxious requests to go back up, I was finally, finally sitting with Chey on the ocean floor - a whopping 10 feet below the surface. I did successfully complete my skills tests (receiving a very sweet underwater high-five and handshake each time) and I did get my swim but I can’t say I ever really *enjoyed* what I was doing. I fought off allowing my brain to think about what I was doing all day. I would move frantically from kind of feeling peaceful to feeling trapped and certain I would die a painful death at any moment. I tried so hard to just think “oh look at the fishies! Oh, that’s a cool fish. Oh wow, look at that!” but it was work, hard work. Chey was so very kind and patient and didn’t get at all cross with me when he found out from the other dive teams that we were just a few feet from seeing a sea turtle if only I hadn’t asked, after swimming for 45 minutes, if we could be done.
Being the kind of person I am - scared of everything - I’ve had lots of chances in my life to feel the difference between before and after. Before: all the blood draining to my feet kind of fear. After: beaming smile, walking on water kind of elation. I can happily report that I reunited with David at the end of the day with that proud, excited beaming smile and I couldn’t wait to tell him all about it. I’m still not sure if diving is for me….still don’t know if I’ll go through the course. I think I need to give it another go to make up my mind, just one more time………:)

4 Responses to “Suzie Scuba”

  1. Mom/Nancy Says:

    I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, and all that kind of stuff. You come by your fear of the water naturally… I feel all the exact same feelings you expressed. My mom believed that it somehow came from the incident when she nearly drowned at age 10 or so in Lake Erie and some guy dove in and saved her, but I don’t know. Anyway I felt every bit of your panic as I read this… but I’m very, very proud of you for confronting the fear in a way I have never done.

    It’s funny, I’ve been thinking about my fear lately because I am determined to take some kayaking lessons this summer, and I keep thinking about “what’s under the water out there in the lake” and I don’t yike it!!

    That fear is probably what made you so difficult to teach when we provided swimming lessons for you… you just didn’t want to learn and the teacher finally gave up!

    Stay safe… experience it all… I love you…

    Love, Mom

  2. Beth Says:

    Fantastic, Sarah! An adventure into the Self. Funny that you said you are scared of everything cos one of the first words I would use to describe you is “brave!” I had no idea you had this relationship with water. But good for you to give it a shot anyway. As always, your honesty with yourself and your readers is just as inspiring as the story itself. Makes me feel ok about my fear of flying and that I worked so hard to get over it but I’ll never feel like ‘woo hoo! I love this!’

  3. Michelle Says:

    I too thought the same thing Beth did when I read that you were”afraid of everything” because I feel like you’re so adventurous! You guys will literally try anything while the rest of us lead our nice, safe, quiet (boring) lives. I too am deathly afraid of snorkeling even though I grew up swimming on the swim team so I was right there with you as you described your experience. But I, unlike you, have decided that I’m not even ever going snorkelling again. Good on ya!

  4. Aunt Cindy Says:

    Wow Sarah…good for you for doing away with your fear of the water. I sure can relate though since I’m the same way with deep water, especially in the lakes or oceans. Give me a nice pool any day of the week. :) Uncle Tom and I did go snorkeling in the British Virgin Islands years ago and I’m glad I did it since it truly was a fantastic experience. It sounds like you and David are having the most wonderful time and I couldn’t be happier for you both. I’m so glad your blog is up and running again and thanks for keeping us all posted. Take care, stay safe and much love to you both.

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